On the morning of February 13 I called the hospital where my mom was staying. When I asked how my mom was doing the person at the nurses station simply told me, “Didn’t you hear, your mom died at 2:24 in the morning?” What shocking news. My mom was not doing very well, but had plans for when she got out of the hospital. Knowing this fact made it extra hard.

For a couple weeks she had been in the hospital, things were not looking good. Before knowing she would not make it, I had booked a flight to go out to be with her, yet it did not leave for a five days after she had passed away. My sister was already there, she was with mom when she died. She wanted to take care of everything and did not allow me to help. So, not seeing a reason to stay, I drove my mom’s car from San Diego to the Philadelphia area, where I am currently living.

Death is something that will happen to each of use–yet it is so surprising and hard. The first book in the series I am writing, Accident, I have a chapter on death and how to deal with the painful change.

In her life, my mom used her mind well, very sharp she was. This was acquired by reading and being so full of knowledge of so many areas. She often surprised me with her knowledge.

So, my sister cleared out the apartment which she occupied for over 30 years. Her phone was disengaged, a number she had for at least 40 years. So, being nothing there, I deleted my mom’s contact info from my address book. So hard to do, but the memories will always be there, at least until I die.

Whom do you talk to most in your life? No, not your family, not your friends, not your doctor, not even your dog—BUT YOU—watch your language! Th e words you say internally are the most important words you should ever hear. I play like a kid much of the time when I am talking to myself internally, it helps so much in my life. You can turn down the destructive language of your self-talk and turn up the second voice that can be funny, sexy. Make this into a voice that you enjoy listening to. You have that control. Stop being so serious about yourself with your self-talk. Th e most powerful words of your life are the words that you tell yourself.

As my website is being redesigned by Gianna, I must keep on track in adding to your life. As I have had to, just know that you can change, you can redesign your life toward the magnificence that you want.

Yes, you will have failures, you will make mistakes, and things will not go right. Yet, this is no reason to bring stress into your life. You cannot learn without some failures. Everyone who has ever achieved anything has experienced a great deal of failure. You are in control of your life and how you think about your life and yourself. You have the power to be a significant influence on the course of your life. You can’t get down on yourself for making an error or not doing something right. Beating yourself into the ground for making errors won’t result in change, being positive will. Stay positive as you move forward through any stress that is apparent.

From my book — Beyond Your Potential:
It is my belief, through experience, that every person on Earth is capable of attaining great heights of happiness and fulfillment, even if they have experienced loss and trauma and have faced seemingly insurmountable obstacles. I am living proof of that. In this series, I challenge you to thoroughly scrutinize your life so that you can clearly analyze where you can make improvements and also monitor the progress you are making toward your life’s goals.
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