BLOG 137—Finding Love

Do you wander or just wonder?
With my words, I hope to throw some oblique light upon your life.
I want to inspire you to see life in a different and/or better way.

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ON WONDERFUL ADVENTURES!

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INTRO TO THIS WEEK >>

My beard?
As you might know, I had not shaved for a year or more. Beth had never seen me with a clean shave, so I thought it was time to. But, I shaved just half off, as she could get used to it, slowly. If you know me, I sometimes do “Kit” stuff and have my fun.

It’s funny, I spent two days with only half a beard, the right side was gone, and not many mentioned it. Perhaps they just thought I was a weirdo, but, I believe, not many people really look at someone. Do you?

Beth and I?
As you know, for a number of years I was living in my van and traveling all over the country; mainly going to national parks and wilderness areas. While in McCormick, South Carolina, I went to the library here to get online.

I asked one of the librarians where I could plug in my computer and do some work. Beth showed me, as our eyes connected with interest.

I told her of my travels and she suggested that I could park on her lawn to spend the night. I said yes as our new friendship was growing.

She had just one more week at the library and then faced retirement. Great timing as we grew to like each other.

The bond was flourishing and cementing us together. We each had big smiles much of the time and were very happy.

We chose February 20 at 2:20 for the wedding (so the date is 2-20-2002 at 2:20—that’s a lot of twos.) Planning either to marry in a natural setting or our home in McCormick. We will have few guests, wish you could be here? Yes, we are accepting wedding gifts (I love toasters—not really.) We are at 801 Augusta St ext, McCormick, SC 29835.

I performed!
They were quite young, preschoolers, but loved my juggling and magic; as I loved performing for them. I do want to return to my entertaining and inspirational talks.

My van is fixed.
It was a hard time not to have my home (my van) functioning correctly. But, a new battery and cables fixed all. Beth and I drove in her car when we needed. And, my traveling days as they were are in the past, as Beth and I will marry and live here together. Yes, we will be traveling together, too.

Live life to the fullest.
Are you healthy?
Worries about COVID?
Keep yourself in top shape as you can. Eat right and exercise—now—as always, that is important. You have control, don’t depend on medicine or doctors, keep yourself above the healthy level you should be, you will be safe.

To find love >>
Love is so elusive that it can seem like the quest to find it will never end. We know it exists, because, like me, others have it. But the path can be so murky that it’s tempting to give up the search. There are no surefire steps guaranteed to bring you love, but, it can be so lonely alone.

Look at me, hit by a truck, twice, once involving a 37-coma I went through. Two failed marriages were also in my past. I never imagined I would find Beth, we are so happy together.

Or, perhaps the ideas below can help you with a current relationship you are in?

I anticipate these ideas will help you >>

1—Understand what you have to offer. Love means sharing yourself with someone else who accepts you for who you are. Before you can expect someone else to accept you, though, you must know what “self” you are projecting. You might start by writing down the answers to these questions. Your answers will help paint a picture of the “you” you are offering to your potential partner.

• What are your best qualities?

• What do you like to do with your time?

• What do you love about yourself?

• What would you like to work on?

• What makes you feel uncomfortable?

2—Build confidence. Whether you are an introvert or an extrovert, a hilarious crowd-pleaser, or a very kind friend, be confident about what you have to offer someone else. That is more important than finding someone to please you.

When it comes to finding love, there is no right personality type, no special trait that will get you ahead. Contrary to what you might see in romantic comedies and sitcoms, everyone has a shot at love—not just the most popular or conventionally attractive among us. So know what you have, and own it.

3—Know what you’re looking for in someone else. Part of knowing yourself is knowing your relationship needs. Writing down what you consider to be the most important traits of your potential partner is a good way to figure out what you actually mean when you say you’re looking for love.

Try not to be too specific with this list of traits. For instance, instead of saying “six feet tall, brown hair, dark eyes,” focus on personality traits that matter to you. Do you want someone who’s honest to a fault? Someone who shares your passion for books?

It may also be helpful to write down a list of definite “no’s.” For example, you might not want a partner who travels six months out of the year or someone who doesn’t get along with your family.

Remember that the point here is not to craft a projection of your future partner; you’re just sketching out the basic qualities you’d enjoy having in a partner so you can understand your own needs better. Chances are, the person you end up loving will only have a few of the qualities on your list.

4-Try dating services? Using an online dating network is a great way to find out who is available in your area. However, don’t fall into the trap of being too picky, or judging everyone by their profile picture. If you want to find love, you’ll have to give people a chance! – the same chance you’d want them to give you.

Perhaps they are as lonely as you? Ask people on dates. When you’ve found someone who interests you and you’re ready to move from the “friend” stage to something deeper, try asking the person you’re interested in out on a date.

Also, try going with the classic date night: ask someone out to dinner. This will probably flatter your date and facilitate great conversation.

Don’t put too much pressure on the format of the date – just focus on having a good time. Joke around and make your date feel good – the goal is to have fun!

Think about whether you’d like to keep seeing this person. Does he or she seem to meet your most important needs? Is there a mutual attraction? If so, make plans to do something else together. If things keep going well, your relationship may take a deeper turn from here.

6—Don’t be too pushy. Remember that everyone is dealing with insecurities and personal issues, and sometimes signals just get mixed. Try not to take things too personally at this early stage.

These days, texting and other forms of messaging may be the simplest ways to communicate, but you’re less likely to give each other the wrong impression.

Find them – they are out there and waiting for you.

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WORDS TO INSPIRE YOU! >>

Inspirational quotes and motivational sayings have an amazing ability to change the way we feel about life and can change our thinking.

This is why I find them so interesting, challenging, and important on our path to joy and happiness and finding ways to inspire ourselves.

Inspirational quotes and ideas provide us with a quick and timely burst of wisdom to get our focus back, offering the inspiration needed for the day or occasion.

I hope to inspire you with my words.
Words have power.
At any age, you can (and should) make changes to make your life better.

You see, the way you think and feel about yourself, including your beliefs and expectations about what is possible for you, determines everything that happens in your life. It all derives from your quality of thinking.

When you improve the quality of your thinking, you change the quality of your life—sometimes instantly!

Just as positive words can make someone smile, and/or, a well-timed amusing quote can make someone laugh, your own thoughts react to the world in real-time. You have this control!

In fact, you have complete control over only one thing in the universe — your thinking — and that’s where motivational quotes come in!

To keep your motivation, you have to use each day as an opportunity for improvement, to be better, to get a little bit closer to your goals. It might sound like a lot of work—and with your busy schedule—next to impossible. But you can do it!

Self-talk is so important—THINK RIGHT!
Motivational words, yes, they’re just words.
But they’re positive words; they will keep you on track.

I hope the words I pick do help you.
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BE INSPIRED BY THESE WORDS>>
From my book series, “Beyond Your Potential”

The human brain is capable of storing more information than all the libraries in the world.

We know very little about the human brain that each of us has. One thing that still baffles science is how we are able to smell so many different things. Scientists know how we see and hear, but they are mystified about how tiny molecules inhaled from the air can be processed and identified by our brains and how the brain can file away those identifications indefinitely in memory.

Because of my brain injury, I am not able to smell things very well. I miss that.

The brain itself has no feeling. In fact, a surgeon can use a local anesthetic to open the skin for an operation, and from then on the patient will not feel what is going on and can remain awake.

Brain size varies between sexes and races, and, of course, between all people. The brain of an average white male is about 3 pounds.

Brain size doesn’t matter that much to your intelligence, one of the largest brains on record is that of an idiot. It is how we learn to use the brain that we have that makes the difference.

There are three main parts to your brain. They are the fore-brain, the mid-brain, and the hind-brain. Along with these main parts of your brain is your brain-stem. The brainstem extends out of the top of your spinal cord and is less than 3 inches in length.

Most of us know more about the way our lawnmower works than our own brain. Your brain controls everything that you think, dream, and do, along with taking care of your bodily functions.

The last few decades have seen fantastic growth in our knowledge of our brain. Imagine, in this space that is no larger than a grapefruit, are about between 10 billion and 100 billion neuron cells (no one knows exactly how many), communicating with each other. The neurons (or nerve cells) communicate with each other through electrical and chemical connections. A signal, from your finger, for example, manages to speed through the nervous system to eventually find the exact area of the brain designed to handle that signal.

Learn to use your brain right – it will add so much to your life!

WITH THE RIGHT TOOLS, YOU CAN OVERCOME ANYTHING.
At any age, you can make the change and aim your life anew.
Now, it’s time to get out there and do something incredible that you can rejoice in!

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MY DAILY JOTTINGS >>

9/25—Not much this week. Sept 25 is Beth’s birthday. We put together a picnic and went to Bakers Creek State Park. Take a look >>
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o2rCLIqeqOw&t=66s

She just turned 63, as I will do on February 28. Yes, the older woman, but not by much. We both think this is fabulous, that we met at an older age and will make each other smile for the rest of our lives.

I would love to hear from you!
Either through Facebook or email – kitsummers@gmail.com

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MY CHALLENGE FOR YOU THIS WEEK >>

Animals, is there a dog or cat near you that needs your love?

Care for this and show love, it will help them and also help you.

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NEXT BLOG >>

Halloween is coming up, will you be a scary monster or a loving princess? Pick something you would like to be and develop a costume. Find a place to go, a party, or even wearing it all day. Let me know what you picked and how it went.

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THIS WEEK, MAKE YOUR LIFE SOMETHING
THAT YOU CAN WRITE ABOUT!