BLOG 217–Are You Confident that You Are Confident?

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TOPIC FOR THIS WEEK—Building Confidence!
From my book series, “Beyond Your Potential”.
I have noticed that many people go through life lacking confidence, following fear, and being anxious about many things. The words below are to help you to build confidence, to alienate fear, and to help you to get past anxiety. These words can be used to battle any anxiousness in yourself.
A sense of confidence enhances your life in numerous ways. From relationships to business dealings and any other area of life, your confidence will bring you closer to success. You will live a fuller, happier, and more abundant life. 

A strong confidence will make you stand out as the leader you are.


As your confidence grows, your good influence over others will grow too. Other people will look up to you and expect more from you, and you can provide more to them.  Over time, you will recognize intrinsic and extrinsic motivations to have such confidence and the responsibility that comes with it.
There are two types of motivation: intrinsic and extrinsic. Intrinsic motivation is the internal drive telling you to meet your needs. Things like juggling, running, or pleasure-seeking activities are based on intrinsic drive. We do them because we like them, not because we are required to do them.
Extrinsic motivation is when you are encouraged by external influences given or controlled by someone else. Most people are extrinsically motivated to go to work every day solely because they get paid to do so. 

 If we can find ways to build our intrinsic motivation to go to work every day, perhaps by building our confidence and earning more respect from our peers and therefore feeling accomplished and like we want to accomplish even more, we can go further in our careers and in our lives than we ever thought we could.  This concept of course applies to all aspects of life.  

   Confidence is not something you have; naturally, it comes through practice.

Even if we have mastered the art of intrinsic motivation on the job and enjoy going to work every day for the personal sense of accomplishment, we may still encounter things we don’t like doing, such as reprimanding other employees for job performance issues or having to fire someone or lay someone off. We sometimes have to do undesirable tasks as part of our jobs, so we have to find the confidence and motivation to get through the depressing things in life. That’s where intrinsic motivation is vital.
Confidence will factor in when you have work you don’t like to do. If you apply yourself and confidently do the best job, no matter how mundane or upsetting the job may be, you will eventually learn to like what you are doing regardless. 

To learn to like your job or any other aspect of your life that currently isn’t your ideal thing to be doing, train yourself to do things with a different heart, with confidence, and with intrinsic motivations.
When I used to perform professionally as a juggler, I would have to look deep inside myself to find confidence in my juggling ability and confidence within my ability as a performer. Everyone at one time or another has seen a street performer or a speaker deliver their performance with little confidence – it’s not very entertaining to watch. 

An overall confidence must be developed to become a good performer, whether juggling on the stage of Bally’s Casino or perhaps just giving a speech in a community college classroom.  I often remember being backstage at Bally’s, waiting to start my routine, and I would be actively engaging my mind and heart to find this confidence. 

Eventually, the music would start, the lights would come on, the curtain would open, and I would come blasting out on stage as if I were the most robust and most able person ever to appear in Bally’s or any stage. 

In my mind, I was overpowering the audience.

I can find this same confidence now when I need it. This confidence must be developed, and tapping into that confidence at a moment’s notice will come with practice.
While recovering from my accident and coma, I found that when I had confidence in myself and my ability to get better, I could get much further through my rehabilitation. My progress would stall or stop altogether when I had doubts or fears. Then I discovered something that helped me a great deal. If you fake any feeling or emotion long enough and often enough, you will develop that feeling or emotion, including confidence. 

When you have confidence, you can do just about anything.

I learned that it’s possible and desirable to fake confidence in yourself and others when necessary. Even if you are just faking it, you will still feel better about yourself, you will accomplish more, and others will believe in you and your abilities. Remember, fake or genuine confidence will take you far in your goals.

Suppose there’s some area of your life that you’ve been struggling with, such as finding a new job. After all, you don’t interview well or make new friends because you don’t think anyone likes you, muster up some fake confidence and go for it! You will be surprised at the outcome. What do you think I’m doing now by writing this book? Not really, but then again, who knows for sure? Always be confident that you will reach excellence and end up there before you know it. 

Confidence is a habit that you can and must develop for yourself.

What new stories are you ready to write?
Inspirational quotes and motivational sayings have a unique ability to change the way we feel about life and can change our thinking.

They are so interesting, challenging, and essential on our path to joy, happiness, and finding ways to inspire ourselves and others.

Inspirational quotes and ideas give us a quick and timely burst of wisdom to get our focus back, offering the inspiration needed for the day or occasion.

I hope to inspire you with my words.
Words have power.

Are you accomplishing what you want before your eventual death?
At any age, you can (and should) make changes to make your life better.

How you think and feel about yourself, including your beliefs and expectations about what is possible, determines everything in your life. It all derives from your quality of thinking.


Just as positive words can make someone smile, and/or a well-timed amusing quote can make someone laugh, your thoughts react to the world in real time. You have this control!

You have complete control over only one thing in the universe — Your Thinking — and that’s where motivational quotes come in!

To keep your motivation, you have to use each day as an opportunity to improve and get closer to your goals. It might sound like a lot of work—and with your busy schedule—next to impossible. But you can do it!

Self-talk is so essential—THINK RIGHT!
Motivational words, yes, they’re just words.
But they’re positive words; they will keep you on track.

Don’t forget that you are only as young as the last time you changed your mind!
Keep your thoughts and self-talk fun and productive, and always reach for more advancement.

“The way to develop self-confidence is to do what you fear and get a record of successful experiences behind you.” William Jennings Bryan
“If you hear a voice within you say ‘you cannot paint,’ then by all means paint, and that voice will be silenced.” Vincent Van Gogh
“Always be yourself and have faith in yourself. Do not go out and look for a successful personality and try to duplicate it.” Bruce Lee.
“Don’t wait until everything is just right. It will never be perfect. There will always be challenges, obstacles, and less-than-perfect conditions. So what? Get started now. With each step you take, you will grow stronger and stronger, more and more skilled, more self-confident, and more successful.” Mark Victor Hansen
“You wouldn’t worry so much about what others think of you if you realized how seldom they do.” Eleanor Roosevelt
“Low self-confidence isn’t a life sentence. Self-confidence can be learned, practiced, and mastered like any other skill. Once you master it, everything in your life will improve.” Barrie Davenport
“Once we believe in ourselves, we can risk curiosity, wonder, spontaneous delight, or any experience that reveals the human spirit.” e.e. Cummings
“Trust yourself. Create the kind of self you will be happy to live with all your life. Make the most of yourself by fanning the tiny, inner sparks of possibility into flames of achievement.” Golda Meir
“One important key to success is self-confidence. An important key to self-confidence is preparation.” Arthur Ashe
“Confidence in our bodies, minds, and spirits allows us to keep looking for new adventures.” Oprah Winfrey
“To be yourself in a world constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.” Ralph Waldo Emerson
“But failure has to be an option in art and in exploration–because it’s a leap of faith. And no important endeavor that required innovation was done without risk. You have to be willing to take those risks … ” James Cameron.
“People are like stained-glass windows. They sparkle and shine when the sun is out, but when the darkness sets in, their true beauty is revealed only if there is light from within.” Elisabeth Kubler-Ross
“Confidence comes not from always being right but from not fearing wrong.” Peter T. Mcintyre
“Argue for your limitations; sure enough, they’re yours.” Richard Bach
“The courage to be is the courage to accept oneself, despite being unacceptable.” Paul Tillich

“If we all did the things we can do, we would astound ourselves.” Thomas Alva Edison.
“Shyness has a strange element of narcissism, a belief that how we look and perform is truly important to other people. ” Andre Dubus
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, ‘Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?’ Actually, who are you not to be?” Marianne Williamson
“Talk to yourself like you would to someone you love.” Brene Brown


Each week goes by so quickly, don’t you think?
And time is going faster all the time.
Do you keep track of what you do each day?
Do this for a few weeks, and you will see your time differently.
4/15–Showering outdoors is quite an experience. As the summer is coming, I will be showering more often in the outdoor rainwater shower I built. Now, no picking if you are in the area. 
4/18–As you know from the past, I purchased a 100-gallon Water Barrel (something to collect and save rainwater.) I bought their 50-gallon container before the 100-gallon one.  For some time ours worked superbly. Just last week I noticed that one of the seams had split and it was not holding rainwater.
Within a week after contacting the company we received a new one. I don’t even have to send the old one back. A magnificent rainwater saver and superb company. If you are not saving rainwater, you need to–start today.

Here they are >>
I did buy mine through Amazon.

4/21–Sending out the blog today. Not much happening this week, I will have to “make” things happen next week. 

Is it time to “make” things happen and live a fuller life?
“Make” a great week for yourself.


Stretching and bending help your body and your mind.
This week, start a routine of daily stretching and bending, you will be glad you did. 

Do something new daily, then keep doing it for the rest of your life.

As I wrote earlier, I need to “make” things happen, as you might do.
You will find out next week what I did.




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