BLOG 127—In the Semi-Wilderness Currently

(Do you wander or just wonder?)
With my words, I hope to throw some oblique light upon your life.
I want to inspire you to see life in a different and/or better way.
Also, that you find joy how you can.

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I WANT TO TAKE YOU AWAY WITH ME ON WONDERFUL ADVENTU RES!

INTRO TO THIS WEEK >>****************************************

Each week I look for and try and make things happen to include in my blog words for you. This gives me reasons to “make” things happen. Do you, can you, live your life in that way—Make things happen to make a bigger life?

I’m enjoying living with Beth in the semi-wilderness. Turtles, dogs, cats, raccoons, hummingbirds, yellow jackets, it’s a real zoo.

As you know, being now with Beth is a big change in my life. I’ve missed being in a relationship so much. Not just “another person”, Beth is a special lady and we add much to each other’s life.

Since starting a romance involves the (enthusiastically!) consenting participation of another person, it’s not altogether under your control. But it’s also worth considering the many ways in which getting into a relationship is under your control.

When I’ve not been in a relationship in the past, life was not as fun, in any way. Relationships, for me, have added so much to my life. This has made me sad when I am not with a partner.

Included here are ideas to find and develop a relationship. Also, these ideas can be used to help and add to the relationship you are currently in?

There are things you can do that will affect how easy it is for you to find your romantic partner. If you’ve been struggling with that lately, as I had been, well, read on. With the right attitude, 2021 could be your year. Or, if you are currently in a bad relationship, is it time for a change?

1) LOOK AT YOURSELF AND GET YOURSELF RIGHT.

I mean, taking your physical fitness more seriously, working on your wardrobe and grooming routine, cultivating your talents and interests. Become as attractive as you can for another person.

Whatever it is that you do, if you’re working on making yourself the best version of yourself, you’ll build confidence and people will start to notice you more and think of you differently. So, aim for excellence how you can.

It’s true that not everyone has charm, money, good looks, or the other common qualities many people think they need in order to find someone, but it’s also true that if you’re feeling unlovable, unattractive or simply undateable, it’s important to.

Whatever angle you choose to work on (and you can choose several), there’s not much that’s more attractive than a person with the humility to recognize their faults and the ambition to improve themself.

2—THINK ABOUT HOW YOU APPROACH PEOPLE.

If you put in some work to check — and maybe change — your perception of others and treat them as fellow humans who deserve equal rights and t+o be taken seriously, you’d be surprised at how much easier it’ll be to find someone who wants to be in a relationship with you.

Try talking to people you know or are close to about their experiences with sexism and misogynism. Try reading books or online advice about how to be a better person, and put into practice what you learn.

3—TRY OUT A DATING SERVICE

If you’re not signed up for an online dating service or site, you’re your chances of finding a relationship are quite low. Over the past decade or two, online dating has skyrocketed in popularity. 

If you’re genuinely looking for a relationship in 2021, sign up for at least one online dating option. If you’re wary of hookup-oriented apps such as Tinder or Grindr, there are a lot of sites tailored for basically every interest, demographic category, and niche subculture out there.

4—GET OUT THERE WHERE THE PEOPLE ARE!

If you are shy when it comes to dating, set a goal and do your hardest to hit it. Whether it’s swiping right on more people, messaging more people, or asking people out more, you should be shooting to reach out more. Above all, aim to make new friends with people.

Opportunities to be in relationships stem from making connections, and if you’re not doing the basic stuff like saying, “Hey, let’s go see a movie” or “Want to grab drinks?” you might never end up at a point where you have the “Let’s be exclusive” conversation.

5. BE HONEST ABOUT YOUR FEELINGS.

Maybe the thing holding you back from success is that you haven’t tried hard enough. This is a long shot, but if you have a crush who you’re too scared to ask out, it might be time to give it a try and be honest about your feelings. Become friends, first.

It’s easy to find yourself trapped in a cycle of “Now’s not the right time to bring it up,” but the truth is that if you really want to make something happen with someone, it’s better to shoot your shot.

Make 2021 the year you find out if your interest likes you back. It’s a win/win —either they do (win) or they don’t, but you’re no longer trapped in a state of emotional suspended animation (also win) and you can start to move on and find someone new.

6. DON’T BE SCARED OF FAILURE

At its core, struggling to find a relationship often involves the fear of failure. If you skipped through all the above advice, take this to heart: Try your best not to let fear of failure prevent you from seeking happiness.

A lot of people are content to go through life without pursuing their dreams because they fear trying and failing more than never trying at all. If your goal in life is to never share any beautiful moments of love and passion, then that’s fine! You do you. 

But if you’re pretending you’re OK with being alone because it’s easier than trying to find someone and getting shot down, you’re doing yourself an immense disservice.

Whatever it takes, remember and repeat to yourself: “2021 is the year I try to find a relationship.” Sure, you might fail. You might find yourself reading an article just like this one a year from now. But it won’t be for lack of trying.

7. DON’T SEEK ROMANCE, SEEK FRIENDSHIP.

Romance is for dates, and it’s fun to have on occasion in your marriage, but it’s friendship that will get you through the rough times. Don’t look for someone who sweeps you off your feet, look to become a friend, first.

8. HAPPY PEOPLE ATTRACT BETTER PEOPLE—YOUR TYPE.

Maybe the biggest issue in not being able to find love is that you’re not feeling good about yourself. Like yourself and like your life — really work on that, Schwartz advised. You have to be the person that you’d want to meet. Find the right person for you, it might be the best thing you ever did for yourself.

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WORDS TO INSPIRE YOU! >>
Inspirational quotes and motivational sayings have an amazing ability to change the way we feel about life and can change our thinking. This is why I find them so interesting, challenging, and important on our path to joy and happiness and finding ways to inspire ourselves.

Inspirational quotes provide us with a quick and timely burst of wisdom to get our focus back, offering the inspiration needed for the day or occasion.

I hope to inspire you with my words.
Words have power.
At any age, you can (and should) make changes to make your life better.

You see, the way you think and feel about yourself, including your beliefs and expectations about what is possible for you, determine everything that happens in your life. It all derives from your quality of thinking.

When you improve the quality of your thinking, you change the quality of your life—sometimes instantly!

Just as positive words can make someone smile, and/or, a well-timed amusing quote can make someone laugh, your own thoughts react to the world in real-time. You have this control! In fact, you have complete control over only one thing in the universe — your thinking — and that’s where motivational quotes come in!

To keep your motivation, you have to use each day as an opportunity for improvement, to be better, to get a little bit closer to your goals. It might sound like a lot of work—and with your busy schedule—next to impossible. But you can do it!

Self-talk is so important—THINK RIGHT!
Motivational words, yes, they’re just words.
But they’re positive words; they will keep you on track.

I hope the words I pick do help you.
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BE INSPIRED BY THESE WORDS>>`

Whatever you say you are, be the best of whatever it is.

At any age, you can make the change and aim your life anew.
Now, it’s time to get out there and do
something incredible that you can rejoice in!
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MY DAILY JOTTINGS >>

7/17—In the yard today was a raccoon eating some cat food we put out that was extra and older. This raccoon scarfed the food down; good to see. Later I saw that Beth’s dog, Jemma, was after something in the yard. I looked and found a turtle digging.

The Eastern Box Turtle was a wonder to see. Beth has had many turtles in the past and knows how to take care of them. We found a box (for the “box” turtle), and put in spinach, lettuce, and even put in two live worms (the worms were consumed quickly.)

We will only keep the turtle (named “Steve”, after my friend, Steve Mills) for just a few days, then she will be returned to the wilderness out back of the house. Turtles stay within one mile of the area where they were born. If they are removed from their home, they will spend the rest of their lives trying to get back to their birthplace area.

So, we moved her about 20 ft away into the woods. Amazingly, this turtle found her way back to the same area where I first found her; when we returned she made her way back into the dog yard. She started digging a hole. Now we will have to protect that area.

This common turtle can have a carapace length of about 6″ (15 cm). They are usually brown or black with radiating yellow markings on each scale. The scales on the turtle’s body may be yellow, orange, or reddish.

Box turtles are called box turtles because they can withdraw their arms and legs, tail, and head into their shell and close up tightly like a closed box. A hinge on their shell allows them to do this. This shell is called a “Plastron”. Males have a concave plastron, reddish eyes, and the cloaca is closer to the tip of the tail.

Box turtles are the most terrestrial of any turtle in South Carolina. They are most often encountered during spring or summer after a rain shower. They are active during the day, wandering through forests or fields in search of food—earthworms, berries, mushrooms, etc.

During the fall, box turtles move to valleys where they bury themselves under the soil or leaf litter. They hibernate in a shallow burrow in the soil. Like wood frogs and several other reptiles and amphibians, box turtles can survive freezing and very cold periods during the winter.

Box turtles, like most turtles, have very long lifespans. They can live for well over 100 years. However, most probably do not live longer than 30 or 40 years in the wild.

A major cause of death for this turtle is automobile traffic! Thousands and thousands of box turtles are killed by cars every year, though no one knows how this affects the species as a whole.

Individual box turtles usually have home ranges about the size of a football field. As I wrote, this amazing turtle was able to make it back into the yard and has started digging a hole to lay eggs in. I will let you know the progress of “Steve”, the turtle.

7/19-23—What a life I am leading. Often I do not even know what day of the week it is. The days sort of flow together into a magnificent life. I hope you find the same magnificence in your life.

Loving where we live—partial wilderness and close access to a city, Augusta, Georgia. Quiet and nice, only one other house on this street.

Even though I am not traveling and spending more time in the wilderness, I will still write you and try and motivate you with my words.

I would love to hear from you!
Either through Facebook or email – kitsummers@gmail.com

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MY CHALLENGE FOR YOU THIS WEEK >>

Summer is coming, have you prepared yourself to get into the best shape you have ever been in? Start with stretching and work up to weights and running how you can. It’s time, start today.

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NEXT BLOG>>

This week out to the wilderness.

One place will be Parsons Mountain

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_OBR9s6srDQ

Also, Badwell Cemetary,

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xf1HoCKB7gk

and

Long Canes Massacre Cemetery.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=efnumDtu418

Both said to be haunted, wish us luck.

Hope I will still be around to write next week’s blog.

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