“KITTING AROUND”
BLOG 286—YOU ARE LOVED!
Don’t sleepwalk through life.
I hope to illuminate your Life with my Words.
The Wanderings of Kit (Do you wander or wonder?)
I WANT TO INSPIRE YOU TO LIVE DIFFERENTLY OR BETTER!
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*** The joy I experience in life is a wondrous thing!
*** I was hit by two different trucks, but I remain happy.
*** Going through a 37-day coma–Yikes!
*** What do you want to accomplish before you’re dead?
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*** I lived in my van for six years, visited all US national parks, and met Beth.
*** Beth and I married on 2/22/22 at 2:22.
*** I will have places to show you and tales to tell.
*** You will find secrets to unfold and good news!
*** What are you passionate about?
*** Have you seen >> https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wFC5vLPDWRo
BE TAKEN AWAY WITH ME
ON WONDERFUL ADVENTURES!
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WHY I WRITE THIS BLOG
You will have many in your life who assist and teach; I am helping to guide you. Coaches like me wish to lighten your path toward excellence. It is up to you to make your journey toward merit. I’m not trying to show you “the way”; I am trying to help you find “your way.” Writing this blog each week is new and different for me—I love it!
I WANT TO INSPIRE YOU WITH MY WORDS –
WORDS HAVE POWER!
Are you accomplishing what you want before your eventual death?
You can (and should) make changes to improve your life–at any age.
Start today, and you can build the life you desire.
YOU ALREADY KNOW
You already know much about what I write, and I want to remind you of these ideas and show that my views can provide additional thoughts, along with yours, to help you.
MY EXPERIENCES
Much of what I write about is taken from my experiences.
I have gone through much.
I hope to spread ideas so that you can live a better life.
Remember, only you know what is best for you.
EVEN IF YOU START LATE,
ARE UNCERTAIN OR DIFFERENT ––
YOU CAN STILL FIND SUCCESS!
Don’t forget–you are only as young as the last time you changed your mind!
HAVE FUN!
Keep your thoughts and self-talk fun and productive, and always reach for more advancement.
VERY LITTLE IS NEEDED TO MAKE A GREAT LIFE!
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TOPIC FOR THIS WEEK — YOU ARE LOVED!
Yes, life is a solo venture. I have been alone for much of my life; I am alright with that. Solitude is a double-edged sword, though: Many of us, especially introverted ones, may require extra time to recharge and regulate ourselves. Just know that being alone is alright.
Yet, if we spend too much time alone, we can avoid slipping into detrimental patterns and losing sight of our ability to reach out to and connect with others. When we focus on just ourselves, we lose much of the world.
It’s hard to write this blog right now. Beth and I are having a hard time, and I hope things get better between us soon. A relationship can be one of the hardest things to go through. We will try our hardest to get things back, though.
It can be challenging to climb back out for those of us who have become too deeply entrenched in loneliness. Humans have an innate drive to connect with others–companionship. If we keep reminding ourselves that other people want to engage with us, we can rebuild the confidence to break free of our isolation.
TO FIND LOVE —
- Be yourself.
Be genuine.
Don’t put too much pressure on yourself or a relationship. - Take things slowly: Don’t rush into anything, and avoid instant sexual attraction, which can fade.
- Communicate: Keep an open mind and communicate honestly with your partner. You can also learn their love language. If you find yourself engaged in being simply you, please allow me to help you climb back to life. Love is there for you, and you must, at times, look for it and be open to seeing it.
- Don’t seek romance; look for partnership.
- Be yourself, always.
- Don’t put too much pressure on yourself or the relationship.
- Take things slowly—don’t rush into anything.
- Keep an open mind and communicate honestly with your partner.
- Spend time together doing something you both enjoy doing.
- Give more to them than you get from them.
First, don’t follow the advice, “You’ll find love when you stop searching for it.” It’s misguided. Don’t get me wrong; I understand there is good intention behind it. You can focus on yourself and drop the desperation. That sounds like solid advice.
It’s not enough.
It needs the caveat that it is potentially plausible if you are friendly-looking and approachable, have a healthy social life, and are willing to embrace any opportunities that come your way.
Or the advice, ‘Just live a life you enjoy, and you’ll naturally attract someone sooner or later.’ I had been living in my van while traveling, and that is when I met Beth. Talk about perfect timing; it was great for both of us.
Don’t blindly follow such misleading advice; don’t expect a relationship to fall into place while doing what you love. You have to be proactive.
I resent the ‘lucky’ guys who seemed to quickly maneuver their way into relationships. I used to tell myself, ‘You’re better looking, funnier, etc. than them… why can’t girls notice that?’ It didn’t dawn on me until recently how naïve my mindset was.
The moral of this story is that while life has an element of randomness, you can create your luck. Luck, as we know, occurs when preparation meets opportunity.
It need not even be associated with lust — friendships can be based on love — though in the case of romantic sexual relationships, there needs to be an element of physical attraction, along with intelligent appeal.
Work out — Remember that a less naturally attractive person who’s put effort into physical fitness will often beat out a more naturally attractive person who hasn’t. Ensure you’re not portraying an image that doesn’t align with your identity.
Mentally — Recognize and address any mental conditions or issues or shortcomings as soon as possible – depression and anxiety being common – so whatever it takes to get a handle on it because this can hold you back from everything and doesn’t often improve on its terms, unfortunately, it can be the opposite.
Try to avoid developing neediness, obsessiveness, and dependency on others. This will translate into desperation, which could be more attractive. People should be a compliment to your life—another source of happiness.
Making somebody the primary or perhaps only source of happiness is like skipping along a knife’s edge. If you give them all the power to build you up, you give them the power to break you down. It will always hurt, but learn how to handle rejection gracefully—all forms of rejection.
Personally and Socially—Work on improving your social skills, a learned effort. Gain general knowledge so you can contribute more to a conversation. Watch some stand-up comedy and take some improv classes to help hone your wit and humor.
Stay around positive people, cultivate your passions and interests, and tell the world about them. Try to make fewer presumptions and have more experience. Learn to be unapologetically yourself and accept that not everybody will like you, just as you don’t want everybody you meet.
Occupationally, pursue something you are passionate about, or take your work responsibilities seriously. We are hardwired to feel fulfilled when working and contributing – even if those contributions seem insignificant to us and the wider society.
Financially, you don’t need vast wealth or possessions, but proving that you’re pretty stable and prudent with your finances is attractive and beneficial for your life.
This is all good, but you could spend a million years improving yourself and get nowhere closer to meeting somebody without the trigger. 
SOME PLACES TO FIND PEOPLE >>
—Bars and clubs are not my favorite places, but occasionally, they can be great places for meeting people on a proper night in the right mood. I met someone once at a bar, and we got together later.
—Social events (parties, festivals, fairs, local community events, etc.): Hang out and meet people at places you like.
—Volunteering. You can volunteer and meet people in so many places. Try a few of your favorites.
—Your Workplace. This is risky, of course, and depends on the size and nature of the workplace and the maturity level of the people involved.
— Find a part-time job, perhaps in bars, etc.
—Smiling and chatting to people when you’re out and about.
—Travelling–something, as you know, I have done much of.
—Swallowing your pride and asking your friends if they know anyone they could set you up on a date with. Remember, at first, you are just looking for friendship.
—Clubs and interest groups.
—Take a class at night school and meet someone there.
—Dating apps (I’ve used Plenty of Fish — pof.com)
—Web forums and communities, and so on.
Always be open to meeting people. Even if you’re in the ‘practice’ stage and have no confidence in yourself, are trying to bulk up, get some anxiety under control, etc., you should still be open to meeting people.
Start now! You can’t wait to emerge from a 10-year cocoon of self-improvement before you spread your wings—if you do, you’ll be ten years behind, which will also weigh on your mind.
You can still improve yourself when approaching people, dating, or being in a relationship—in fact, you would be foolish not to, and having someone to hold you accountable can help.
After all, life is a continuous sequence of failure, reflection, and self-improvement—or at least, that’s how I like to look at it. Remember, love is expressed through consistency, NOT intensity.
THE IDEAS BELOW CAN HELP!
Say one or more of these daily for you and your partner.
You will get back to love and life.
Memorize many of these lines and use them with your partner as often as possible.
- I love it when I catch you looking at me.
- Somehow, just hearing your name gives me butterflies.
- Since I met you, I have cried a little less, laughed a bit more complicated, and smiled all the more. Just because I have you, my life is a better place.
- Every day with you is a beautiful addition to my life’s journey.
- You are my happily ever after.
- You’re my paradise, and I’d happily get stranded on you forever.
- When I think it is impossible to love you any more than I already do, you prove me wrong.
- You are far more than my partner. You are my soulmate in every way.
- I continue to choose you every day, and that choice gets more manageable and more accessible.
- What on earth did I think about all the time before you?
- Your voice is my favorite sound.
- So far, every moment we’ve spent together has been incredible.
But I promise you that the best is yet to come. - If only you knew how much those little moments with you matter to me.
- You have no idea how much my heart races when I see you.
- If you were a movie, I’d watch you repeatedly.
- If loving you was a job, I’d be the most deserving, dedicated, and qualified candidate.
In fact, I’d even be willing to work for free! - In a sea of people, my eyes always search for you.
- I never want to let go when I wrap my arms around you.
- How lucky am I to have fallen in love with my best friend?
- Do you know how much I miss you every second of the day we’re not together?
- Your smile is the cutest thing I’ve ever seen in my life.
- You do a million little things that bring joy to my life.
- If I could give you one thing in life, I’d let you see yourself through my eyes.
Only then would you realize how special you are to me? - I know fairy tales come true because I have you.
- There are only two times that I want to be with you: Now and Forever.
- My six-word love story: “I can’t imagine life without you.”
- You are my soulmate, my best friend—what would I do without you?
- You add a breath of fresh air and a ray of sunshine to our daily routine.
- I want to be the reason behind your beautiful smile today and every day.
- Stop making me think about you! I’m busy.
- Cuddling with you would be perfect right now.
- If nothing lasts forever, can I be your nothing?
- You make my heart melt!
- I couldn’t ignore you even if I wanted to.
- Every moment away from you feels like a lifetime.
- Thank you for always making me feel like the most beautiful person in the world.
- Next time I hug you, I won’t let go for a long time.
- The best part of my day is waking up next to you or sleeping with you.
Hurry home so I can compare the two again. - Everyone is motivated to get up in the morning and face the day. You are mine.
- Whenever my phone vibrates, I hope you’re the reason for it.
- You’re just like bacon. You make everything better.
- Forget the butterflies; I feel the whole zoo with you!
- I want you to come over, but you’re so hot my air condition bill would skyrocket the second you entered the door!
- You might be too busy today, but please add me to your to-do list.
- Love me—that’s all I ask of you.
- If you were in an accident, I wouldn’t stop for red lights.
- Love is a friendship set to music.
- Who, being loved, is poor?
- To me, you are perfect.
- It doesn’t make you weak to love someone.
BE THE LEADER THAT YOU ARE!
YES, YOU STILL HAVE TIME TO FIND YOUR SUCCESS!
THINK — AND THEN THINK AGAIN.
WHAT NEW STORIES ARE YOU READY TO WRITE?
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WORDS TO INSPIRE YOU!
Inspirational quotes and sayings have a unique ability to change the way we feel about life and can change our thoughts. They are attractive, challenging, and essential on our path to joy and happiness and finding ways to inspire ourselves and others.
THE BURST!
Inspirational quotes and ideas give us a quick and timely burst of wisdom to regain our focus, offering the inspiration needed for the day or occasion. I hope the words below bring a smile to your face and drive you to make this day and every day a fantastic event.
BE POSITIVE!
Just as positive words can make someone smile, and a well-timed amusing quote can make someone laugh, your thoughts react to the world in real-time. You have this control! You have complete control over only one thing in the universe—YOUR THINKING!—and that’s where motivational quotes come in!
“YOU”
How you think and feel about yourself, including your beliefs and expectations about what is possible, determines everything in your life, and it all derives from your quality of thinking. Use quotes to move ahead in your life.
SELF-TALK IS SO ESSENTIAL—THINK RIGHT!
To stay motivated, you have to use each day as an opportunity to improve and get closer to your goals. It might sound like a lot of work—and with your busy schedule—next to impossible. But you can do it! Motivational words, yes, are just words. But they are positive words; they will keep you on track.
QUOTES WILL BENEFIT YOU!
Positive and inspiring quotes can be like sunshine on a cloudy day. They inject optimism into our thoughts, brighten our mood, and help us focus on the good in life. They remind us that even in the face of adversity, we can see the silver lining and embrace a positive attitude.
PEARLS OF WISDOM
In a world filled with challenges and indecisiveness, the power of inspirational quotes cannot be exaggerated. These pearls of wisdom uniquely uplift our spirits, can spark positive change, and fuel our motivation often when we need it most.
I HOPE THE FOLLOWING WORDS ADD TO YOUR LIFE >>
“Every human being alive has felt this pain, hopelessness, and loneliness at one time or another. We are all connected through this shared pain and struggle. We feel alone, and in this, we are connected.”
Leo Babauta
“I love you.”
Is that not enough?”
Kit summers
“The loneliness you feel is an opportunity to reconnect with others and yourself.”
Maxime Lagacé
“Ordinary men hate solitude. But the Master uses it, embracing his aloneness, realizing he is one with the whole universe.”
Laozi
“You do not have to be good. You do not have to walk on your knees for a hundred miles through the desert, repenting. You only have to let the soft animal of your body love what it loves.”
Mary Oliver
“Love is composed of a single soul inhabiting two bodies.”
Aristotle
“If I know what love is, it is because of you.”
Herman Hesse
“If the moon calls you by your name one day, don’t be surprised because I tell her about you every night.”
Shahrazad al-Khalij
“I would rather share one lifetime with you than face all the ages of this world alone.”
J.R.R. Tolkien
“Deep within us—no matter who we are—there lives a feeling of wanting to be lovable, the kind of person others like to be with. And the greatest thing we can do is to let people know that they are loved and capable of loving.”
Fred Rogers
“The soul that sees beauty may sometimes walk alone.”
Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
“Loneliness is proof that your innate search for connection is intact.”
Martha Beck
“The greatest thing in the world is to know how to belong to oneself.”
Michel de Montaigne
“We can all fight against loneliness by engaging in random acts of kindness.”
Gail Honeyman
“A season of loneliness and isolation is when the caterpillar gets its wings.
Remember that next time you feel alone.”
Mandy Hale
Although I am a typical loner daily, my awareness of belonging to the invisible community of those who strive for truth, beauty, and justice has prevented me from feeling isolated.
Albert Einstein
“All great and precious things are lonely.”
John Steinbeck
“Romanticize the actions that you take for yourself. Acknowledge your desires and turn them into something better than your imagination. It’s all about making an effort for yourself.”
Renuka Gavrani
“There’s nothing abnormal about loneliness.”
Terry Howard
“The man who follows the crowd usually gets no further than the crowd. The man who walks alone will likely find himself in places no one has ever been.”
Francis Phillip Wernig
“I wish I could show you the astonishing light of your being when you are lonely or in darkness!”
Hafiz
YOU IMPROVE THE QUALITY OF YOUR THINKING,
YOU CHANGE YOUR LIFE’S DIFFERENTIA—SOMETIMES INSTANTLY!
COMPOSE A NOBLE BOOK AND WRITE A BEST-SELLER.
YOU ARE AMAZING—PLAY YOUR PART!
YOU CAN TURN THINGS AROUND FAST AND ACHIEVE YOUR
WILDEST DREAMS NO MATTER WHERE YOU ARE IN LIFE!
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MY DAILY JOTTINGS >>
Each week goes by so quickly, don’t you think?
It seems like time is going by faster and faster.
You must live joyfully, daily, for each day!
Do you know what you did last Monday?
Do you remember what you ate for dinner last Thursday?
Keep track of your doings for a few weeks; you will see your time differently.
Remember, the quality of your life depends on what you do each day.
8/17–As usual, I woke up about 3 a.m. I worked some on the gardens. They could be looking better, but with some upkeep, they should come back.
Beth and I are having a bit of a spat.
Relationships can be complicated.
A good relationship can be one of the most challenging things you may go through.
8/18–Sunday again. Did you go to church? Of course, I did not. I cleaned up all that paint I had spattered in the room I was painting. It cleaned up nicely, and I will paint the walls soon.
While working on the front lawn, I encountered many ants (but no uncles). These little guys bite, and the area where they bite swells up and gets puss under the skin. Many ants bit me, as my skin has developed many sores on the ankles and hands.
8/19–As Beth and I were driving along, there was a big lawn mower on the other side of the road coming toward us. A rock flew up and hit the windshield. I immediately told Beth to turn around and drive in front of the three mowers and pull over, which she did.
Of course, this was their fault; they must take care of the windscreen. I got the driver’s name, and we charted precisely where it happened. Beth made some calls, and the windshield repair will be done.
The birds are a noisy group, they are a delight, though.
Most people would say, “Oh well,” and not pursue them. If something happens that is someone else’s fault, go after them.
8/20–This morning, I awoke early again—1 a.m.! I am unsure what it will take to get a good night’s sleep. I am currently reading “Sleep Well, Live Well.” I have not gotten to the part with recommendations on getting good sleep, so here I am. So, sleep still eludes me.
8/21–We currently have a new cat. This cat showed up at our neighbor’s house, and we took over. The cat is about four months old. It is such a friendly, lovely feline. We took it to get all the necessary shots, and it did not cry when it got the injection. You will see photos of the lovely Kitty (wait, I thought that was my name!) And in the first shot, there is lovely Beth behind.
8/22–I Slept in today until about 4am; that’s late for me. Beth slept in the same bedroom with the meow. She came out at about 4:30, complaining about the smell of poop in the spare room where the cat was. She went off to sleep the rest of the night in our bedroom.
I’m going to Augusta to visit Best Buy and Costco. Lunch at Costco is always good. You can try the samples and then return to do it again—that’s lunch. Beth’s computer was running very slowly, so it was time for a new one. Best Buy has Lenovo Computers for a great price, and that is the kind I use, so I bought one.
I will have to return to pick it up after all the information is transferred to this new computer from the old one. She will be pretty happy with how the new one works for her.
My van continues to run magnificently.
I’m hoping to get over 300,000 miles!
That will be excellent.
8/23–Now, there is much going on today.
I worked around the house and garden and did not go anywhere.
So it was a comfortable day.
DO SOMETHING NEW–DAILY!
THEN, KEEP DOING NEW FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE!
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THE GARDEN THIS WEEK
A self-supportive life can be a better life.
A garden would be a part of that life.
You must look into it.
This week, now much with the garden.
I’m sending a few photos, though.
The raspberries are doing excellent!
I look out my office window, where I do most of my typing and blog work. All I see is nature, the garden, growing things, and wildlife. What a lovely view every time I am on my computer.
START YOUR GARDEN TODAY!
IT MAY BE NECESSARY FOR YOUR LIFE!
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ALL OUR LIFE, WE MUST CHALLENGE OURSELVES!
YOUR CHALLENGE FOR THE WEEK >>
After my accident and 37-day coma, I could not walk. In learning to walk again, I had to consider all aspects of my walking ability. At first, I walked swinging my arm with the stepping foot. I saw that excellent posture was necessary, and if I stood upright like a string pulled up from the back of my head, I would walk better.
This week, your challenge is to walk as perfectly as you can.
Think of having a string on the back of your head pulling up.
Maintain good posture throughout the week.
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